Unit 10 (week ten)

Feelings

A. Feelings go up and down
Up and down phrasal verbs connected with feelings often refer to positive (up) and negative
(down) emotions and emotional events, or a more emotional intensity (up ) or less emotional intensity (down).
UP
Brighten up, will you! You're depressing everyone! = suddenly look or feel happier
The film cheered us up considerably. = made us start to feel happier
There's no point in being hung up about it; there's nothing we can do. = becoming very worried about something and spend a lot of time thinking about it (informal).
DOWN
She broke down when she was told the bad news. = was unable to control her feelings and started to cry.
Calm down! Losing your temper won’t solve the problem. = stop feeling angry, upset, or excited.
I need some time to cool down before I can see him again. = become calmer.

B. More verbs connected with feelings - examples from horoscopes
Scorpio
There’s something you need to tell someone that is making you very angry, so don’t bottle up [1] your emotions. If you do, there is a danger that you will tear yourself apart [2].

1 not allow yourself to show or talk about your feelings, especially feelings of anger and sadness (informal)
2 make yourself very unhappy

Virgo
A letter or e-mail will make your heart beat faster, but don’t get carried away [3]; proceed carefully. At work things are getting better, and you should jump at [4] the chance of a new challenge which will be offered to you soon.

3 become so excited about something that you do not control what you say or do and you forget about everything else
4 eagerly accept a chance to do or have something

Leo
You may be unwilling at first to take part in an activity suggested by a close friend, but talk about it, and you may warm to [5] it a bit more. In fact, the idea could soon grow on [6] you and you’ll find yourself doing something you never expected to do and talking to [7] it enthusiastically.

5 become more enthusiastic about an idea
6 you like smth more and more, although you did not like it at first (informal)
7 starting to like it

Gemini
You feel for a female colleague at work who seems to have so many problems and hung-ups [9], but be careful; you could soon become more involved than you want to. She will have to pull herself together [10] sooner or later; it’s her life, not yours.

8 feel sorry for someone who is unhappy or in a difficult situation
9 feelings of embarrassment or fear about something, often when it is not necessary to feel that way (informal)
10 become calm after being very upset or angry

Relationships

A. Talking about relationships
Dear Auntie Jo,
I think I’ve fallen for [1] the new guy who’s just started work in our office. He fitted in [2] at once. He and I get along [3] really well, but he hasn’t asked me out [4] yet. What should I do?
Miranda Buxton
1 (informal) become very attracted to
2 felt happy in a group of people because he was similar to them
3 like each other and are friendly
4 invited someone to go to a place like a cinema or a restaurant, usually to start a romantic relationship

Dear Auntie Jo,
I’ve been going out with [1] my boyfriend for ten months now and we’re planning to get married next year. But last week we fell out [2] over something really stupid. He heard a male friend of mine tell me my hair looked nice and he thought it was a chat-up [3] line. He got so jealous and wouldn’t speak to me. Do you think a minor falling-out [4] like this is a bad sign for our future marriage, or am I worrying too much?
Tanya Wilson
1 having a romantic relationship with
2 had an argument that damaged our relationship
3 (noun, informal) a way of talking which suggests you are sexually attracted to someone and want them to be attracted m you (from the verb chat up)
4 (noun) argument (from the verb fall out)

B. Being attracted to someone
If you hit it off with someone = immediately like and become friendly with them (informal
If you pair off with someone = start a romantic relationship with them
If you chat someone up = talk In a way that shows them that you are sexually attracted to them and you try to make them attracted to you
If you go for a particular type of person or thing = like that type of person or thing

Relationships: problems

Here are some more letters to Auntie Jo, the agony aunt. Read these letters from a popular young people's magazine along with Jo’s replies below.

Dear Auntie Jo,
My boyfriend and I have just split up [1] after a year together. For the first six months everything was great, but them we just seemed to drift apart [2]. I didn’t really want to finish with [3] him, but he wanted to break off our relationship. Should I ask him if we can start again and try to rediscover the magic of those first six months?
Linda (aged 19)

‘When two people grow apart [5], it’s usually because they are basically different. The fact that he broke off with [6] you means he recognizes that you don’t really have a lot in common. You’re young. Let him go!”

1 ended a relationship or marriage
2 gradually become less friendly and the relationship ends
3 end a romantic relationship (informal)
4 end a relationship
5 gradually become less friendly, often because you do not have the same interests and opinions any more
6 ended a romantic relationship with someone

Dear Auntie Jo,
My parents broke up [1] last year and I’ve been depressed ever since. I see each of them regularly, and I love them, but I feel they have let me down [2]. Is there anything I can do to persuade them to make up [3] and live together again so that my sister and I can have a normal life like other kids?
Brian (aged 16)

"Brian, a marriage break-up [4] is always very sad, but there’s not so much you can do. They are adults and they have made their own choices. You feel you’re missing out [5] on a normal young person’s life, but you’re not alone. A third of all marriages in Britain end in divorce. Be brave and talk to your friends about it."

1 their marriage or relationship ended
2 disappointed me by failing to do what they agreed or what I expected them to do
3 forgive each other and become friendly again
4 (noun) the act or event of breaking up
5 not doing or getting something you would enjoy or that would be good for you, or not having something other people have

Dear Auntie Jo,
A couple of years ago my uncle ran off with [1] another woman. She was much younger than him, in fact she was only 20 and he was 52. it ended in disaster. He left her last year and returned to his wife. But the neighbours all stare at him and laugh at him; it seems he’ll never live it down [2]. He’s doing his best to settle down [3] and be a good husband and uncle again, but I feel so unhappy for him. What can I do?
Iona (aged 17)

“People can be very cruel, Iona, and your uncle may have to settle for [4] a lot more embarrassment before the neighbours forget what happened. The best thing you can do is to show your uncle that you love him and support him and show him that you accept him, and all his faults.”

1 secretly left a place with someone in order to live with them or marry them, especially when other people think this is wrong
2 stop feeling embarrassed about smth you did by waiting until people forget about it
3 start living in a place where you intend to stay for a long time
4 accept smth, often smth that is not exactly what you want, or is not the best

Secrets and conversations

A. Secrets
Angela: You're keeping something from [1] me, aren't you?
Steve: Well, sort of. Jill really opened up [2] to me last night. She poured out [3] a lot of thin
but made me promise not to tell anyone and I can't go back on [4] my word.
Angela: Go on. You can tell me, I won't let on [5] to Jill or anyone else.
Steve: No, I can't. In the course of her outpouring [6] she owned up [7] to something quite
serious and I really can't tell you about it. You'd be far too shocked!

1 not telling me about something
2 started to talk more about herself and her feelings
3 talked very honestly about what was making her unhappy
4 not do something that you promised you would do
5 tell someone about something that was supposed to be a secret
6 (noun) long and emotional expression of what she was feeling
7 admitted she had done smth wrong

B. Conversations
Keep on at sb = talk to someone about smth many times, usually to complain about smth they have dome or not done. E.g.: I wish you wouldn’t keep on at me about my handwriting! No-one else has problems reading it.
Talk down to sb = talk to someone as if they were less clever than you. E.g.: The best teachers don’t talk down to pupils but speak to them as equals.
Play down smth or play smth down = try to make people believe that smth is not very important or is unlikely to happen. E.g.: There is no point in trying to play down the incident – too many people saw exactly what happened.
Pin down smb or pin smb down = make someone give you exact details or a decision about something. E.g.: He’s the most infuriating man – you can never pin him down to a date on anything.
Have it out with smb (informal) = talk to someone about smth they have said or done that has made you angry in order to improve the situation. E.g.: Once Sally had had it out with Kim about the housework, things got much better.
Wind up smb or wind smb up (informal) = tell someone smth that is not true in order to make a joke or to annoy them. E.g.: Stop pretending that you’ve lost your sister’s new jacket. It’s not fair to wind her up like that.
Mouth off (informal) = talk about a subject as if you know more than everyone else or to complain a lot about something. E.g.: Robert is often mouthing off about his boss behind his back, but he’d never say anything to his face.
Shut smb up (informal) = stop talking or making a noise, or make someone else do this. E.g.: Would you please shut up while I’m trying to concentrate on these papers.

New phrasal verbs

A. New phrasal verbs particularly used by the media and young people
Be partied out = have had enough of parties because you have been to so many. E.g.: After a whole week of birthday celebrations, I feel totally partied out!
Big up smth or big smth up = praise something very highly. E.g.: He begged up that new film but when I went to see it I was really disappointed.
Bliss out (+ on) = become or make someone become totally happy and relaxed. E.g.: They blessed out on music.
Buy into smth = completely believe in a set of ideas. E.g.: I don’t really buy into all that homeopathic medicine stuff.
Chill out = relax completely, or not allow things to upset you. E.g.: Chill out! Life’s too short to get so stressed!
Sex up smth or sex smth up = make smth seem more exciting than it really is. E.g.: Sports promoters are trying to sex up cricket for the younger generation.
Text back smb or text smb up = send a text message in reply. E.g.: I’ll text you back when my meeting finishes.

B. More examples of new phrasal verbs
Hi, Tanya,
How are things with you? Better than with me, I hope. I feel totally stressed-out [1]. Things started badly when I was late for work today – I needed some money and stopped at a shop where I bought a load of things I didn't really need but they still refused me cashback [2]. Then when I got to work I discovered that today wasn't a dress-down [3] day as I'd thought - and everyone else was looking smart while I'd come in my jeans. Then I discovered that all the e-mails I sent yesterday have bounced back [4] to me. I feel like screaming! I've been working soooo hard for soooo long - I think I'm suffering from burnout [5]! I wish I had loads of money - I'd go and veg out [6] in the Caribbean.
Penny

1 (adjective) very worried and anxious
2 (noun) money from your bank account that you can get from a shop when you buy goods with a debit card
3 (adjective) used about a day for dressing in less formal clothes than normal
4 didn't get to their destination and have been sent back
5 (noun) the condition of being ill or tired because you have been working too hard
6 relax by doing nothing (informal)

TASK: Write a story (250 words) describing life of a young man/woman of modern society. Remember to use phrasal verbs of this unit.